This fight keeps happening over and over of bear break ups. He’s so funny, we laugh together, have great sex, we go on dates (but only if I plan them)
I just don’t feel like this is a relationship, surely if you are in a relationship you see each other more and enjoy the company you have?
I just don’t understand what is happening. It’s what brought me to this article. I’m so scared I am going to lose a man that I love with my whole heart, want to marry, and that I have 3 1/2 years of my life to.
I’m sorry about this, I can really relate as it happened to me in the past as well. I had a boyfriend that I was madly in love with. We had a great relationship – Just like yours. Great talks, laughing. We also lived together. We were in college together, and when ever I tried to talk about the future and where we’ll live when we finish school – He avoided the subject. Deep down, just like you, I knew where this was going. But I refused to accept it. When school ended he decided to live with his parents until he got a job. He never invited me to come, but I came to live there anyway. I refused to take the hints. You probably know how this ended. He built up the courage to break up with me only after buying a car together – A month later.
I think that your boyfriend sadly wants to end this. But your reaction has scared him and he doesn’t know how to deal with your grief. That’s why he said “I guess not”. In my humble opinion, the only chance you have in saving this relationship is to let him have what he wants and keep your dignity. If you let him walk away while keeping your self respect and self worth, he may wake up 
in the near future and realize what he is missing.
Hi Lisa, Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now; at the start of the relationship it was fantastic
But if you drag this until he is forced to “brutally” break up with you, he’ll never see you as someone he can be attracted to again. This is how he’ll remember you – As someone he can’t live without him, breathe without him. I know you won’t like what I’m saying, but I AM trying to help.
I hope you do the right thing for you and remember – If it’s meant to be – It WILL be. No matter the rough patches and obstacles in the way.
We would always hang out, text, call; every weekend we would have date night where we would go out to a meal or movie then we would stop at either my place or his. After a few months are closeness did begin to get a bit heavy and we both recognised this and agreed to try to put some space between us. We were arguing every time we saw each other and it wasn’t much fun anymore. Anyway we thought that some space would resolve this issue. I really don’t think it has resolved anything but the arguing as much. He loves having his space to go out with his mates and obviously I enjoy it my space too but I feel like there is just too much space between us now and it doesn’t feel like a relationship. I feel like I’m only there out of convenience for him. I have tried to talk to him about it but he says he likes the space for us to do our own things and he thinks its working; but I definitely do not think its working. I just want him to put in the same effort as he did when we first got together; he avoids texting, he rarely calls and we see each other once a week sometimes once every two weeks. I just don’t know what to do; I have exhausted all my abilities to try to make this work, but I feel like he just wants an excuse to leave or he is giving me the excuse to leave. Words literally cannot express how much I love this man but I feel like I’m fighting a loosing battle. Please help me. Kay x