Go out and do things that you actually enjoy doing! Even if it’s a simple as watching a movie or reading a book. The guy you’re texting should be a nice addition to your life and happiness, not the sole source of it.
When you have stuff in your life that you love doing, it makes it much less important to you whether he responds or not. And that’s where the power is.
If you’re comfortable, happy, and confident in your life without him, he’s going to want to be around you. He’ll want you to be a part of his life.
Instead of you desperately chasing after him, frantically trying to get his approval, he’s going to feel the need to come chasing after you and be desperate to get yours.
Drop The Stress And Get In The Mood (To Text… Not For Sex, Perv)
Guy Confession: “This girl I met back in grad school was seriously the opposite of every other girl I’d ever met. The first text she sent me was asking me if I wanted to go scuba diving with her. It’s ironic because the way we ended up connecting after that was incredible.
I probably sound cheesy and dumb right now, but I remember really wanting her to text me after that. I would actually over-analyze why she didn’t respond. In reality, she was just going out having fun in life but in my head I couldn’t help feel like I needed her to respond for my life to be okay. And this is not how I am normally.”
And there you have it, ladies. When texting a guy, be :max_bytes(150000):strip_icc()/the-ada-and-depression-know-your-rights-1065229_final_CORRECTED-a4c8f06a8e0d4f8f9dbf0edae63ba63b.png)
specific and be unique. Don’t be boring and show him that you have a fulfilling life that he is welcome, but not needed, to join.
Oh, would you look at that? This is the perfect segue into the next section, what I like to call: “The Biggest Rule In Texting”…
Settle Down and Get Your Emotions Under Control Before You Text Him
I know you’re thinking, “This is impossible! I can’t help but want him to text me back. This isn’t even a fair thing to ask.”
Whether you’re in a relationship and you just want him to answer your texts (or be romantic once in a while), or you’re texting him for the first time and you desperately want him to come out on a date with you, it can be the most frustrating experience that makes you want to scream and tear your hair out.
At the end of the day, you can still worry and stress about whether he’s going to text you back. You can be frantically checking your phone every 2 minutes to make sure the volume is up high in case you missed a text. You can wire your phone straight into your eyeballs so that you’ll know the second he texts you.
When you have stuff in your life that you love doing, it makes it much less important to you whether he responds or not.
Because, and this is 100% true, men can sense what kind of emotion is put into a text. It’s the same thing as when you get a text from a guy and it “feels” like he’s angry, or distracted, or annoyed. Or it “feels” like he’s emotionally withdrawn or cold. Or it “feels” like he doesn’t really want to talk to you.
The emotions that you’re feeling when you write the text always leak into the text itself, and unless he’s clueless, blind, or dead, he’s going to be able to pick up on them.